Go to your safe place

This weekend, Morgan came up to visit for a few days and as usual we had a blast, doing some damage in Target, working out and eating at little cafes. But there was an added dimension to her visit this time. She’s been working a lot and stressed about some things going on in her life, so I promised her … Read More

Secrets of a Social Drinker

If it’s true that you’re only as sick as your secrets, alcoholism was a terminal illness in my family. Only it didn’t kill my grandfather. He killed a child in a drunk driving accident and went to jail for five years. I just sat with that sentence for a long time wondering if I could actually share his story. His … Read More

When a friend goes missing

When I was in my twenties, I had a friend go missing. Penny* had married younger then the rest of us and had a two-year-old daughter, Allie*. One Tuesday, she missed picking Allie up from daycare. The next day, Penny’s husband Jim called her parents, saying he didn’t know where she was. “She didn’t come home last night?” Penny’s mom demanded. … Read More

Ink Again: Why my second tattoo probably won’t be my last

“Is there something you want to tell us? “Why would you do that? “Are you depressed?” “That’s weird.” Given the responses to my first tattoo, a semicolon that symbolizes suicide awareness, you might think I’d be gun shy about getting another one. But while the semicolon was a reminder that, despite my anxiety and depression, my story is not over, my … Read More

The F*ck It List: Toxic beliefs and behaviors to lose in 2017

Not going to lie: 2016 was tough. Everyone seemed to be limping toward the finish line and many of us were furiously setting goals for a happier, more productive 2017. But instead of focusing only on the things we want to accomplish in the new year, Morgan and I decided to identify some beliefs and behaviors we wanted to leave … Read More

Auntie Venom’s Most Popular Posts in 2016

It was a great first year for Auntie Venom blog and Morgan and I thank you for your support. We were still finding our footing for the first few months (and I was calling Morgan Emmi before she became a full time collaborator) but we got into a groove and now have a clear vision for 2017. We also have … Read More

Living with anxiety: a work in progress

Many of my friends and family members have probably heard me mention my anxiety disorder, but don’t fully understand what that means. I mean how could they? It’s different for everyone. For me, it’s mostly fear of everything. I also have social anxiety, which is at the top of my fears. This isn’t me being “dramatic” or “sensitive.” It’s an actual … Read More

Let Go: 5 things I learned from my last haircut

On Valentine’s Day, I chopped off my hair. I know people do that all the time, but the last time I cut mine shorter, I asked for a long bob and ended up with a Sideshow Bob. I was miserable for weeks. Hair is my security blanket. I have the kind of thick, unruly mane that can go completely Lord of the Flies … Read More