As part of our new mini series, Love Lesson from My Exes, we’re sharing what women of all ages have learned about love (and themselves) on the dating scene. Here are Nicole’s love lessons so far.
It’s okay to ask for what you want and need, and to be very honest and direct about it. If they don’t want to talk about things that are important to you, or they give lip service but then never actually do what you asked, let go and move on. Don’t waste your time. They don’t care about you the way you deserve.
Also, be sure to put yourself in their shoes when you’re in a difficult conversation or they’re trying to tell you something. They deserve empathy even if you don’t like or “agree with” what they’re sharing.
Pick your battles. Some things do not necessitate a fight or weirdness! You’re just making yourself miserable when you don’t look at the big picture.
When you stop having sex, the relationship is ultimately doomed and the timer has begun counting down.
Don’t do the silent treatment. I am still working on this one but have come a long way. It will never get you what you truly want, which is understanding and connection.
Got any love lessons of your own you’d like to share? We’d love to hear them.